first of all I wanna say a massive THANK YOU to all your lovely feedback to my latest „she’s mental“ episode – I really appreciate it and it makes me so happy to see that the pilot as well as episode 1 did help some of you!
in this weeks episode I wanna talk about body confidence! this is a topic that was a matter all my life. nowadays I’m a very confident person – but that wasn’t always the case. I used to hate the shape of my body and always had VERY big troubles getting dressed for school or going swimming with friends etc.
I remember the days in high school when I’d rather played sick so I didn’t have to go to school because I was so ashamed of showing my body in a swimsuit (we had swimming lessons every other week). things got better a bit, when I finished school and started my apprenticeship: my environment changed and this made me feel a bit more confident about myself. I could practically restart „myself“ and be the person I really wanted to be. don’t you think this is sometimes kind of the problem? you’re like stuck in your life with the same people who know you for ages and this can feel sort of back-breaking when you wanna change something – about you as a person, about your style, about your friends… just anything.
my taskmaster in my apprenticeship is an amazing person! he’s funny, smart and probably the most confident person I know. I’m pretty sure I wouldn’t be as confident as I am now, if I’d never met him. we actually never talked about confidence or something similar ever – but the way he showed me how to live life really impressed me: he always knows what to say in every situation or if he doesn’t he can play it over very well!
so I think he’s definitely part of the reason why I am as confident as I am today.
I’m confident about my story, about my lifestyle and most importantly about my body. I’m no size zero and will never be – but I’m ok with that. not only am I ok with that, I love my body! it has done some amazing work – my beautiful daughter reminds me of this daily. isn’t it a shame, that so many women and men hate their body just because society tells them everything above size 34 isn’t beautiful? that stretch marks are ugly? or that boobs have to be a certain size? every body (shape) deserves to be loved! and let me tell you something: there are definitely more people with stretch marks than without, more with cellulite than without and more people with a bigger size than zero!
but for >sure< there are days when I feel like crap! there are days I don’t wanna go out because a dress doesn’t fit well, my hair looks ugly or my boobs are lower than 10 years ago! but nowadays I try to think about it in a different way. when I don’t feel good, I stand in front of a mirror and ask myself to think about five things I like about myself. it doesn’t have to be a physical thing:
- I like how my body was able to give birth to my beautiful daughter
- I like the colour of my hair
- I like the shape of my lips
- I like how I (almost) never fail to make someone laugh
- I like that people ask me for my opinion in different situations
after I think about these five things I usually immediately feel better.
try it – I promise it’ll work!
do you struggle with your body confidence or have you got any good tips how to feel better? let me know in the comments – I’d love to hear from you ❤